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  • 15 Ways to Regain Your Confidence after Being Dumped

    You just got out of a relationship, and you're not feeling too good about yourself. Well, this isn't the time to mope around and wallow in self-pity! Itís time to turn over a new leaf and rediscover your self-confidence. With our helpful tips and ideas, youíll be back on your feet in no time. Donít get overwhelmed by trying to fit all of our ideas into one day, but donít be lazy about it either. Breaking up is hard to do, and regaining your confidence after being dumped requires some work on your part. Get on your feet and take one step at a time toward the new and improved you!

    • Make of List of Things You Love About Yourself
  • Make a list of 30 (or 31, one for each day of the month) things you love about yourself and post it on your bathroom mirror for a month. Each day, choose one of those things and repeat it to yourself as a positive affirmation throughout the day. Make yourself sticky notes and post them in your car, at your desk, in your wallet, on the fridge, whatever it takes to make you think positive thoughts about yourself. Even if you feel silly doing it, give it a try for a few days so you can see the effects of positive affirmations for yourself.
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    • Exercise
  • It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but itís an unarguable fact that exercise releases endorphins in your body that make you happy! If that isnít enough for you, imagine the glee you will feel walking around with a banginí new bod! Thereís nothing quite like that feeling you get when you look in the dressing room mirror and feel like a million bucks. You will sleep better at night, reduce the level of cortisol (the female stress hormone), and increase blood flow to your brain Ė and you're going to need all the brain power you can get to kick start your recovery.
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    • Learn Something New
  • Try something you have always wanted to do. You will feel energized and excited, two things that arenít easy to achieve when you are heartbroken. It could be taking a writing class, going bungie jumping, or attending a cake decorating workshop, whatever floats your boat.
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    • Lean on Your Girlfriends
  • Thatís what they are there for. Even if you lost touch during the relationship you had with your ex, which can sometimes happen with unhealthy relationships. Donít isolate yourself. Let your friends know that you are hurting. Let them drag you out on the town as much as they want. Let them be there for you. If you want someone to spend the night so you donít cry yourself to sleep or call your ex, then reach out and ask your friends.
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    • Take Care of Yourself
  • Eat healthy food in between the junk food binging, drink lots of water even if you'd rather have vodka, and rehydrate your swollen eyes with damp chamomile tea bags before looking in the mirror. Pamper yourself with a day at the spa or get a really good massage. Take bubble baths, stretch before you go to bed, give yourself a deep conditioning treatment, and get into a really good book.
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    • Journal
  • Breaking up is one of the best times to start journaling. That way, when you have a lapse of judgment during a crying fit and canít remember why you split, you have your own words to remind you. The other advantage is that putting your thoughts down on paper actually allows you to ďteachĒ yourself the lessons to be learned from this experience. Donít get hung up on what you couldíve done or what you wish you wouldíve done differently. Stick to the positives. What have you gained from this relationship and the break-up that you didnít have before? How have you grown as a person? What relationship skills do you have now that you will be able to use in future relationships?
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    • Do Something Productive with Your Agony
  • Repaint your apartment, or take out a wall if you want to. Plant a garden, start a ďsingle againĒ blog, or pick some other project that is sure to get your creative juices flowing and keep you busy.
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    • Make a Getting Over Him Playlist and Listen to it Every Day
  • Hereís a list to get you started:
    Apologize by One Republic and Timbaland
    Cares by Travis Tritt
    I Hate Everything About You by Three Days Grace
    Down to My Last Teardrop by Tanya Tucker
    I Didnít Know My Own Strength by Lorrie Morgan
    Through With You by Maroon 5
    One Way Ticket by LeAnn Rimes
    Better Things to Do by Terri Clark
    Big Mistake by Natalie Imbruglia
    Party Down by Julie Reeves
    RESPECT by Aretha Franklin
    I Will Love Again by Lara Favian
    Shake it Off by Mariah Carey
    Let It Rain by Keri Noble
    Over You by Daughtry
    Big Girls Donít Cry by Fergie
    I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor
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    • Buy Something New
  • Buy a great outfit that you feel totally sexy in and wear it out. Trade in your car for something really hot if you can afford it. Get a new pet! Thereís nothing like a puppy to occupy your time and affection.
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    • Have Physical Contact
  • One of the things you are sure to miss the most is the physical contact. Itís normal and natural to crave it, so donít try and cut off the desire, just fill it up another way. Bring your kids or your pets onto the couch to cuddle with you. Call your sibling or your mom over to snuggle with. It may sound silly, but getting a massage can help. Scientists agree that skin to skin contact is very healthy and helps people to feel safe, secure and centered.
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    • Bask in the Sunshine
  • If at all possible, you should find yourself a great spot to soak up the sun. The vitamin D will help combat any signs of depression. In addition to the health benefits, there is something very nurturing to a womanís soul about sunbathing. Maybe itís the gossip magazines and the scent of coconut tanning oil, but whatever it is, itís good for a broken heart.
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    • Laugh A Lot
  • It is true that laughter is the best medicine, so surround yourself with witty, entertaining people, watch funny movies, read an Ellen DeGeneres book, or get a comedy CD to listen to while you do things around the house.
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    • Hang Out with Some Guy Friends
  • Donít go swearing off men just because one of them broke your heart. Men make good friends, and they are very good at making a woman feel beautiful and sexy, even if you have no interest in each other beyond friendship. They give a good balance to your support network, so keep them around.
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    • Make Yourself an Online Profile
  • You probably shouldnít start dating right away, but itís a fun thing to do anyway. Youíll have to talk about yourself, which is a good way to get in touch with your real self again. Youíll get the attention of other guys, which is a good boost to the ego, and youíll have something to do when you have trouble sleeping.
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    • What not to do:
  • Get drunk and call you ex.
    Think you can be best friends right after you break up.
    Think you can still be ďfriendsĒ with benefits.
    Stalk your ex.
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