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Handling a Break Up Without Looking Desperate
  1. Don't initiate contact for at least two weeks. If they call you, keep the conversation short and do NOT rehash what went wrong.

  2. If you feel you must say something to them; go buy a journal and write down everything you are feeling and want to say. Even go so far as to address the letter to them, however, do NOT mail it. This is just a vessel for getting your thoughts out. Trust me; you'll be glad you kept your thoughts to yourself someday!

  3. Make sure to express your gratitude about having the opportunity to share so many pleasant memories with them. Wish them well with whatever future may be in store for them.

  4. Do not spend hours upon hours deliberating by yourself or with friends about what could have gone wrong. It isn't healthy to dwell on the past or the negative. If you need to powwow with friends, focus on doing creative or action-oriented things to keep your mind busy.

  5. As soon as you are able to, start shifting your focus to your new life. You've just been given a new opportunity to start on a new path. What will it be? Take this time to do something you've always wanted, but just didn't get to while you were with your ex.

  6. Accept responsibility that you contributed to the demise of the relationship, however, that it was also a two-way street. There's no need to dwell on what each person "did" or "did not" do. Assess for yourself what relationship areas you could probably address for future relationships and make a commitment to do something about it.

  7. If your ex wants to give the relationship another chance, don't say yes immediately. Take some time to really gauge whether the original problems have been handled. If they haven't, it will only be a matter of time before you're going through all of this again.

  8. If your ex is already seeing someone new, try your best to avoid seeing them together. Take comfort in the knowledge that if they were interested enough to date someone else, they were never your Mr. or Ms. Right! That means your perfect someone is still out there waiting to be found.

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